Secret admirer notes suck. I never realized this before, as I had never, ever been the recipient of one. They are not romantic. They are not mysterious. They are just annoying. I found such a note as I entered my office Monday morning; it was slipped under my door after I had gone home for the weekend last week.
Using a Conan-Doyle style of reasoning, I sliced away the impossible potential writers of said note, leaving only one, albeit highly improbable, candidate. It’s too bad I forgot that such reasoning is a logical fallacy—she didn’t write the note. I discovered this as I slithered under the nearest rock, bathed in crimson humiliation.
Needless to say, the mystery remains unsolved.
I can’t believe that I, myself, once subjected another human being to such a silly thing. Yes, I am ashamed to say, I did. So if any of you are ever tempted to attempt such a gesture, don’t…do…it.
I shall keep that piece of advice handy should the urge to admire secretly ever arise.
Michael, I think you were the catalyst in turning something (intended as) positive into a big zero. When/if you do receive a secret admirer letter, you CANNOT jump to the conclusion that you 100% know who it is and confront the person. It’s a no-win situation. If the note is genuine, then the person does not want you to know who sent it - which is understandable in a work situation. People at work can be crazy. Perhaps someone sent you a note and left some clues wanting to make it look like it was sent by someone else?
Point is - it is no-win situation trying to find out who sent it. I know you have to think about it for a while, but then you have to chalk it up to either (1) someone really thinks you’re it and wants you to know, or (2) it’s a joke, but, hey, they could have sent something worse than a secret admirer note.
Priscilla, you are quite right. It is a no-win situation. I do tend to obsess over such things for far too long. I just need to accept that this is a mystery to which I will never ever know the answer to.
As for turning something positive into a big zero, it wouldn’t be the first time…. The loneliness I have suffered over the last decade and half of my life is a sad result of my extreme social ineptitude.